"En Elev som uppvisar en glad o öppen personlighet blir färre gånger tillsagd vid dåligt beteende jämfört med en elev som har "pissoff-attityd" Vuxna tillrättavisar inte dåliga beteende utan det de uppfatta som dålig attityd"
I shared this - and translated into English - as i agree
"This is so true - joyful children who misbehave do not get reprimanded as much as children with a "pissoff attitude" for the same amount of misbehaviour - attitude is what teachers are reacting to rather than the behaviour/actions"
I think I would like to take the time to translate it more accurately (as I tried to keep to the limits of a tweet, which is not always the best thing)
A student that displays a happy and open personality is reprimanded fewer times for their bad behaviour compared to a student that has a piss-off attitude. Adults don't reprimand bad behaviour but what they perceive as a bad attitude
This then got retweeted with a "well yeah.." comment...
It got me someone frustrated as this is the EXACT problem that I am facing with my son at school.. after years of him not being taught the way he learns, of being in an environment that overstimulates, of not getting the support he has the right to - he has suffered from depression and has developed that piss off attitude which is more about self preservation than it is about disrespect.
The fact that educators feel the need to correct attitudes MORE than misbehaviour is totally inappropriate... if they want children to have a more positive attitude then why not take a look at why the child in your class/group is angry and pissed off - and meet the child's needs there, instead of telling them are wrong. Often this child feel they are wrong all the time - like my son, because he does not under stand instructions if they are more than 2 stage instructions (and he struggles with that) then classroom situations are hard, because he desperately wants to be seen as clever he will call out when he knows stuff (which is seen as rude), when he sees other children being rude or misbehave or call out he will point it out... the children then attack him verbally and the teacher lets it happen - making him feel small. He needs so much preparation for changes and transitions that teachers forget again and again to do (mostly because they are over worked) so he gets anxious... and for my son and many others like him (autism/adhd) anxious looks like angry or pissed off to an adult - so suddenly my son is being reprimanded because he is loudly having a meltdown.
he will refuse to do work at school... which irks teachers no ends... but of course he has gone into full scale panic.
I decided to take a look at this person who reacted this way... I mean if I want educators to really understand my son and children like him, then I need to take the time to understand where these comments are coming from. So I took the time to read this person's blog and it became clear that this new teacher was frustrated by the behaviour of students who were neither listening or learning the way the teacher expected them too.
THIS is a problem of the teacher training where the focus is not on meeting the learning styles of children, but on training methods of teaching to meet the needs of getting grades and meeting curriculum expectations. This is also means teachers are not being adequately prepared to meet the needs of those children who cannot learn by these methods, or think these methods are boring.
The school system also does not allow teachers the time to really get to know their students, to understand how they tick, to take the time to understand their learning strategies, to discuss with other teachers about possible paths of learning. Also the whole school system built on grades and testing is this right or wrong approach which kind of re-enforces follow the route rather than use your imagination to find a new route... after all that could mean ending up in the wrong place and getting it wrong... it could be a huge risk... at the same time it could be the way to finding the solution - these learners are more off-road learners. Off road teaching requires bravery, it requires an environment that is supportive from teaching peers and directors to ensure teachers don't get lost. Sticking to the road might be the safest bet - but its not always the most exhilarating.
Our learning journey cannot just be sitting on the highway getting from A to B. If it is then of course there is going to be resistance in the class - there are going to be those "are we there yet?" children, there are going to be those who need a break to stretch their legs etc and of course those that prefer the small roads where either you go fast and enjoy the thrill of the bends, or slow down to see the details.. and all of those diversions, pitstops, adventures etc that could happen when you slow down and take the time to pause at a bend in the learning journey that offers a deeper understanding.
Of course in a class of many students this is going to be hard to meet the needs of all their different travelling preferences... not all are even going to like travelling by the same mode of transport... you can't just shove them on the same school bus and expect them to just sit there and learn until the destination, some adults have decided the location of, is reached.
So back to the attitude...
Malaguzzi said "Nothing without joy" - this is the same for educators and learners. There needs to be joy, there needs to be a feeling of security and safety and mutual trust - without this there will not be real learning. If a teacher keeps pressing the learning without addressing the joy, the security and trust then there is a massive chance that bad attitudes will develop... reactions to needs not being met, of frustration... and then the child is further punished for having a bad attitude.
Being rude is not acceptable, I am not condoning disrespect. But we need to take the time to understand where it is coming from. How can we lift these children/students so that they can enjoy school too.
For me it starts in early childhood and that it should actively continue from there...
The below film is the ad from Burger King about bullying which illustrates what I am saying to an extent...
This month is anti-bullying month... and this week is anti-bullying week...
I have continued this post a couple of days later so more has happened on twitter... today I reacted to the anti-bullying week with a feeling of mistrust... sometimes it feels like too many think they have "done something" about bullying because it has been highlighted for a week...
The thing is this kind of thing needs to be highlighted every day of the year, every year... it should not be antibullying, it should be about supporting the children to have positive and open relationships with each other, it should be about respect and valuing each other, it should be about creating a safe space through mutual trust and respect... that cannot be done by pressing the children on learning geometry and reprimanding them when they don't listen and focus because they are too busy trying to survive the classroom climate.
If we are giving children the best start in life in the early years education, with plenty of time to focus on play and social interactions... Original Learning... together, individually, with enthusiasm through play, with respect and trust - and that the learning continues in this way but becomes more advanced, detailed, in depth and challenging to meet their evolving cognitive development... and there is STILL the focus on play and social interactions... where children are empowered in their learning rather being dictated to consume knowledge... then I also believe there will be less need for these anti-bullying awareness campaigns.
The problem is the school system is failing both educators and learners - and instead of pausing and making the necessary health changes the educational body is being patched up, bandaged and medicated to continue the learning journey. Of course there is going to be bad attitude... most would complain to travel a route they don't want to take when not healthy...
So what would I like to see changed?
- That early childhood education is valued more. As this is the foundation of learning.
- That play is valued more.
- That the idea of Original Learning is valued and used for the entire educational journey we make
- That educators get more time to listen to their students
- That educators are trusted to meet the needs of their children/students
- That children/students are trusted by their educators
- That there is more time for social interactions on multiple levels
- That a democratic classroom involves respect, equal values, participation and responsibility (Reflections on play and peace - and there are other posts about democracy I have written) adults and children.
- That teachers are educated in the many forms of learning, not just one or two models of learning - including understanding autism, trauma, ADHD, discrimination etc etc etc
- that risky play is seen as an essential part of learning... (and risky play includes social play). Children do not need to be protected from everything otherwise they will never truly understand risk, danger and be able to keep themselves safe... or fully comprehend the risk/danger they impose on others by their actions.
- That children are valued as citizens NOW, not as future citizens.
I know there is more, much more to add to this list.. but maybe 11 points is good to start with... it is the 11th month.
|and yes... this is my son!|
Maybe there is chance that my son can regain the fantastic happy disposition he once had before school robbed him of it... and instead of apologising for this attack on his ability to have a positive attitude they reprimand him for reacting. Being autistic is about surviving the day - coming home trying to reload the batteries to be able to survive the next day... there is NO energy left for learning unless the right resources are put in place so that there is not the need to consume so much energy to just survive.
So next time you have THAT child in your class that is giving you a bad attitude. Take a deep breath, count to a hundred, and try and find out what the root of the problem is... and if you don't have the time for that... make a noise... we need to shout out; as educators we NEED more time for our students, we need time to vent with a supportive co-worker or a specialist that can give advice, we need time to learn about the child, we need time to build trust, we need time to create a safe space, to find the fun... THEN there will be time to learn...
its not easy.